INTRODUCTION & PREPARATION
Rejections can create a number of other conditions, largely insecurities that can undermine your soul. I am not just referring to a feeling of rejection, feeling a victim of something, sad, defeated, hurt, un-loved... you get the drift. That list is very long.
This morning I am focusing in on the DEEP rejection that derails our entire mindset - and - most importantly my Victory, collectively our Victory through Christ. This is a very common one that I personally struggled with and am now freed from Thank You Lord, is an identity crisis - blended with a false since of what love and acceptance actually is. I therefore, did not love myself as I should have, I lowered my standards to make sure I was loved.
This can lead to a mis-guided decision matrix, belief systems that are not fact based and instead are emotionally based. This is a core issue of weakness in many of our lives. In fact it can be so deep, it can go undetected. Ask yourself, are you extremely protective, do you get offended easily, or are so performance based that you also may judge others. Oh you will still go fix, do, and love on others, but you are doing it because - wow you cant believe they did it again. That stupid repeat that You Know of and You somehow are bigger than. You might not realize it but, others are feeling your condemnation - that is the other side of your hurt - a spirit of rejection leaves us feeling condemned. So we try to measure up, try to make sure everyone loves us, we are over preforming everywhere, and yes we are harsh and we judge.
For me it started when I was a small child. My uncle was you guessed it inappropriate; when I approached my parents the words were oh that is just how your uncle is. You are over reacting, that is normal.
Many other areas confirmed these emotions, like perfect grades and no accolades, sports achievements and zero attendance, being forgotten at school or any number of different things. Watching the over praising of others that to my surprise did nothing, other than perhaps got into less trouble than last time. No achievements got their love - so they must just not love me. Just confirming things. Now for me, I did not become a victim, I became a fighter, I buried all of that however it affected the decisions I made for nearly my entire life. I did have an event when my daughter was young, He showed up and it triggered it all back like a flood gate. Of course then I had to deal with the affects within the family, as the news spread. But what did not happen is any healing, it only strengthened my resolve as to my independence. Drawing my strength and security from myself, it wasn't until very recently after the loss of my Mother, lost wealth, lost my entire family as I knew it and massive betrayal was revealed.
Our Father God wants nothing more than to release You from that bondage, from our pains, from our sins to be there for us in pure Love. Here is the best part of all - once you are on the other side and released. All of that pain, changes and the beautiful painting the Lord has been working on, refining you during those challenging and hurtful times. So lets do this -
When you are thrown into an identity crisis or finally realize that is what happened/happening and you cry out to the Lord for help; you have an opportunity to erase old tapes that have played in your mind for a long time and replace those self-destructive thoughts with God thoughts. God is Great
Remember Your heavenly Father saw you and approved of you even while you were in your mothers womb Psalm 139:13-16. He gave you several tools that would bring you to the place where you are today. He is a Father who has been waiting for you to come home to the truth-the truth that will set you free John 8:32.
Future rejection may hurt, but it will only be for a season 1 Peter 1:6. And Ecclesiastes 3:1. The Word of God is your shield against all the fiery darts of the devil Ephesians 6:16, 17. For victory over your feeling of rejection, pray the following prayer in faith and with a Joyful Spirit.
Read the below verses, ponder on them and let them settle into your heart; then Pray this Prayer for Your Totally Victory over Rejection! Praise God!
Lord, Your Son, Jesus, is my high priest. He understands and sympathizes with my weaknesses and this excruciating pain of rejection. In His Name I approach Your throne of grace with confidence, so that I may receive mercy and find grace to help me in my time of need. I ask You to forgive my sins, I receive Your mercy; I expect Your healing Grace to dispel the rejection I am suffering because of false accusations and demeaning actions of another.
Father, Jesus was despised and rejected -A man of sorrows, acquainted with the bitterest grief. The grief of-----turning against me and treating me as an outcast is consuming me, just as my rejection consumed Your son, who freely gave his life for me.
Forgive me for turning my back on Jesus and looking the other way-he was despised and I didn't care. Yet it was my grief HE bore, my sorrows that weighed HIM down. He was wounded and bruised for my sins. He was beaten that I might have peace; He was latched, and with His stripes I AM healed.
In the face of rejection I will declare, "the Lord is my light and my salvation whom shall I fear or dread? The Lord is the refuge and stronghold of my life-of whom I shall be afraid ? "Psalm 27:1 amplified version
I know right from wrong and cherish Your laws in my heart; I won't be afraid of people scorn or their slanderous talk. Slanderous talk is temporal and fades away. Your Words will never pass away. Father, I choose to look at things that are Eternal: Your justice and mercy shall last forever, and Your salvation from generation to generation.
Your eyes are upon me, for I have right standing with You, and Your ears are attentive to my prayer. You spoke to me and asked, "Now who is going to hurt you if you are a zealous follower of that which is good? "
In my heart I set Christ apart as a Holy, and I acknowledge Him, as Lord. I am always ready to give a logical defense to anyone who asks me to account for the hope that is in me, but I do it very courteously and respectfully. I purpose, to see to it that, my conscience is entirely clear, I WILL NOT BE impaired, so that when I am falsely accused as an evil doer, those who threaten me about abusively and rival my right behavior in Christ may come to be ashamed of slandering my good life.
There is wonderful joy ahead, even though the going is rough for a while down here. These trials are only to test my faith, and chastening as to my character, to see whether it is strong and pure. It is being tested as fire test gold and purifies it-and my flesh is far more precious to you, Lord, then we are gold; so if my faith remain strong after being tried and test tube in the fiery trials, it will bring much praise and glory and honor on the day of Jesus's return.
In spite of the rejection, I have experienced, I declare everything you say about me in your word is true:
- I am blessed with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ Ephesians 1:3.
- I am chosen by you, my father Ephesians 1:4,
- I am holy and without blame Ephesians 1:4,
- I am your child according to the good pleasure of your will Ephesians 1:5,
- I am excepted in the beloved Ephesians 1:6,
- I am redeemed through the blood of Jesus Ephesians 1:7,
- I am a person of wisdom and prudence Ephesians 1:8,
- I am an heir Ephesians 1:11,
- I have a spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of Christ Ephesians 1:17,
- I am saved by your grace Ephesians 2:5,
- I am seated in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus Ephesians 2:6,
- I am your workmanship Ephesians 2:10,
- I am near to view by the blood of Christ Ephesians 2:13,
- I am a new creation Ephesians 2:15,
- I am of your household Ephesians 2:19,
- I am a citizen of heaven Ephesians 2:19,
- I am a partaker of your promises in Christ 2 Peter 1:4,
- I am strengthened with might buy your spirit Ephesians 3:16,
- I allow Christ to dwell in my heart by face Ephesians 3:17,
- I am rooted and grounded in love Ephesians 3:17,
- I speak the truth in love Ephesians 4:15,
- I am renewed in the spirit of my mind Ephesians 4:23,
- I am your follower Ephesians 5:1,
- I walk in love Ephesians 5:2,
- I am light in you Ephesians 5:8,
- I walk circumspectly Ephesians 5:15,
- I am filled with the spirit Ephesians 5:18,
- I am more than a conqueror Romans 8:37,
- I am an over comer revelations 12:11,
- I am your righteousness in Christ Jesus 1 Corinthians 1:30,
- I am healed 1 Peter 2:24,
- Ian am Free John 8:36,
- I am salt Matthew 5:13,
- I am consecrated 1 Corinthians 6:11 amplified,
- I am sanctified 1 Corinthians 6:11,
- I am victorious 1 John 5:4,
- everything you say about me is true, Lord.
IN YOUR NAME I PRAY - AMEN
Hebrews 4:14-16; Isaiah 53:3-5; 2 Corinthians 4:18; Isaiah 51:7, 8; 1 Peter 3:12-17 amplified; 1 Peter 1:6, 7
“Inasmuch then as we have a great High Priest Who has [already] ascended and passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession [of faith in Him]. For we do not have a High Priest Who is unable to understand and sympathize and have a shared feeling with our weaknesses and infirmities and liability to the assaults of temptation, but One Who has been tempted in every respect as we are, yet without sinning. Let us then fearlessly and confidently and boldly draw near to the throne of grace (the throne of God's unmerited favor to us sinners), that we may receive mercy [for our failures] and find grace to help in good time for every need [appropriate help and well-timed help, coming just when we need it].”
Hebrews 4:14-16 AMPC
“He was despised and rejected and forsaken by men, a Man of sorrows and pains, and acquainted with grief and sickness; and like One from Whom men hide their faces He was despised, and we did not appreciate His worth or have any esteem for Him. Surely He has borne our griefs (sicknesses, weaknesses, and distresses) and carried our sorrows and pains [of punishment], yet we [ignorantly] considered Him stricken, smitten, and afflicted by God [as if with leprosy]. [Matt. 8:17.] But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our guilt and iniquities; the chastisement [needful to obtain] peace and well-being for us was upon Him, and with the stripes [that wounded] Him we are healed and made whole.”
Isaiah 53:3-5 AMPC
“Since we consider and look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen; for the things that are visible are temporal (brief and fleeting), but the things that are invisible are deathless and everlasting.”
2 Corinthians 4:18 AMPC
“Listen to Me, you who know rightness and justice and right standing with God, the people in whose heart is My law and My instruction: fear not the reproach of men, neither be afraid nor dismayed at their revilings. For [in comparison with the Lord they are so weak that things as insignificant as] the moth shall eat them up like a garment, and the worm shall eat them like wool. But My rightness and justice [and faithfully fulfilled promise] shall be forever, and My salvation to all generations.”
Isaiah 51:7-8 AMPC
“Conduct yourselves properly (honorably, righteously) among the Gentiles, so that, although they may slander you as evildoers, [yet] they may by witnessing your good deeds [come to] glorify God in the day of inspection [when God shall look upon you wanderers as a pastor or shepherd looks over his flock]. Be submissive to every human institution and authority for the sake of the Lord, whether it be to the emperor as supreme, Or to governors as sent by him to bring vengeance (punishment, justice) to those who do wrong and to encourage those who do good service. For it is God's will and intention that by doing right [your good and honest lives] should silence (muzzle, gag) the ignorant charges and ill-informed criticisms of foolish persons. [Live] as free people, [yet] without employing your freedom as a pretext for wickedness; but [live at all times] as servants of God. Show respect for all men [treat them honorably]. Love the brotherhood (the Christian fraternity of which Christ is the Head). Reverence God. Honor the emperor.”
1 Peter 2:12-17 AMPC
“Now the value is for you who keep trusting; but for those who do not trust, “The stone which the builders rejected— this One has become the chief cornerstone,” and “a stone of stumbling, and a rock of offense.” They stumble because they are disobeying the word—to this they were also appointed.”
1 Peter 2:7-8 TLV
Don't allow folks to berate your friend in your presence. Do not embrace a slanderous report about your friend, unless they are there to defend themselves. A trustworthy friend who've always been there for you, through your ups, downs, changes and turnarounds. They are worth any price, any effort, any defense.
Time To Circle The Wagons And Keep Your Friend Protected.
Always Remember, True Friends Will Always Have The Same Enemies.
"A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother." Proverbs 18:24
The Lord is good to us, He listens and answers prayers, warms our hearts, comforts our soul, and is our constant Lord and Savior. His promise to always hear us is true and profound. His Word takes His direction and spells it out for us stubborn ones, providing the refinement and direction we need to take our walk to the next level, to gain the ability to claim and act on our God Filled Power. Example are the verses below. Suggesting our prayers should start with coming to Him with all of ourselves, then praising Him with our deepest points of our souls, and a pure heart. AND - people you really can not do that with a myriad of irritations in your head, hate, rage, recruitment, forgiveness. No matter what adjective you choose, extreme or on the more soft side - it is all the same thing - we need to embrace His Promise, Forgive our Transgressors, and Ask God to Forgive Us!!
So let's get started - shall we -
We find ourselves asking to we guard our hearts or do we forgive? The answer is both - they are very different!
Yesterday, I was blessed and sat in church with a wonderful Man God has blessed me with, and listened intently to the message that sure did hit home. I entered church angry and I didn't even realize it - and - as much as I have been in denial about it, it is true, there was a lot I needed to forgive. Different people and many different circumstances, both old and recent. It is as if the past hurts just kept serving up new injuries. Yes, this is on the heals of Thanksgiving. What happened, other peoples choices, choices they had the right to make, I simply allowed them to hurt me.
So here is where you Forgive, you forgive the person, pray over it and get through it. Knowing all the while Our Father has your back!! Then, you guard your heart from further hurt stemming from that same person, or from that same behavior. Therefore, taking yourself off the roller coaster that hurt, circumstance, or person(s) caused. Instead embrace your healing through Christ, and through forgiveness. It is truly a way to thrive in life verses just survive.
I can't say I want to be immune to hurt, nor saying that is what God wants for us. Not at all, each of our pains are for us to grow. Grow in the Lord, not to grow in anger or resentment. So yes, I was convicted, prayed as we sang, cried and boy oh boy am I thankful! Thank you Lord.
I want to call attention to the Women Readers - Our Call is to be the "Helper", to be the "Nurturer" among many others vast and broad callings on women. To which BTW you can find in Proverbs 31 for starters. No where will you find that we are supposed to just sit at home, sit at work, dominate our man, or be dominated, control everything, be perfect, or worse be the victim and stay suffering in the garbage the enemy sends our way. Doesn't say that at all!
Myself in particular the past decade, well a little more than that was a nightmare! Starting three years ago God Woke Me Up - Big Time Rocked My World. It was a mess and needing rocking BTW. Post that an awakening began, I began personally examining my life, dealing with the pain, forgiving and now blessed with redefining so many elements and relationships. I pondered where did I forget to guard my heart, where did I open it too much or not at all. Some of you may know right now I am redefining my life. I am divorced, and that wasn't pretty. I had put my career on hold, totally given it to the Lord. Which was scary, risky, and humbling. My Mother was sick, went home to the Lord, my Father who I found out isn't; completely threw all of our memories away and instantly remarried in just a couple of months. I had spent my life in a trap of performance based love, parents, x-husband, his family, co-workers... I am not complaining, nor a victim. I am merely setting my stage. I know there are so many of us women that are in similar spaces. We survive in those states, and frankly that is a barely surviving. Certainly not living, and most certainly not Thriving! How did we get here? If I may suggest, ask a different set of questions.
How do I thrive? How do I get a better outlook?
- First, You humble yourself to the Lord and ask for His Forgiveness,
- Consistently, honor Him in prayer,
- Ask for His guidance, then Choose to Believe He is There Guiding You!!
In other words, stop waiting for the other shoe to drop. Because it will. Difference is, you have not given it any power. Instead you have chosen Faith, and God rewards by providing us with REAL POWER ! TYL PTL
Well Listen All You Gal's - I sure would like you to join me. Let's change this!!
I believe it starts with getting right with God - so drop your pride, drop your extreme need for independence, to be right, to control, to avoid being controlled. Whatever it is that is under your skin. Give it to God the Father. Let's start over for heaven's sake - push the do over button.
Next verse is a little reminder, if your thoughts are filled with sin, it is sin you wish for or want, it is still sin even before you have acted on it. Iniquities are the thought of the sin, the coveting, wishing and wanting of that sin. Transgressions are sins we actually acted on. Hear you see the power of your thoughts, in that those lusts are causing your voice to be silenced. Your voice to the Lord, or rather His ears. So in the warning the Word is also instructing to humble ourselves, and repent in our prayers before we start listing off the areas of wants and needs.
So guard your hearts, stay pure of heart, mind and actions! Of course repent when you fall, because we are human and we are living in grace, Thank You Lord, He forgives us and washes us of our sins past, present and future. There is still the need however to repent, moreover the need to guard your heart and strive for pure thoughts and actions. It is hear where we are truly blessed. Make no mistake this isn't performances based love, we are His children He loves us regardless; as The Father He also wants the best for us, so see this as positive guidance, His words instructing and advising on the best path forward!! Thank you Lord, Hallelujah !!!!
“Come and hear, all ye that fear God, and I will declare what he hath done for my soul. I cried unto him with my mouth, and he was extolled with my tongue. If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear me: But verily God hath heard me; he hath attended to the voice of my prayer. Blessed be God, which hath not turned away my prayer, nor his mercy from me.” Psalms 66:16-20 KJV
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